On campus at the University of North Florida last week, we all had several good conversations with students. Tom even had the opportunity to pray with several junior high students who were on campus for an event one of the days.
Later on in the afternoon of the second day on campus, I had the opportunity to experience something we'd been talking about as a team earlier that day: On making the point of our lives, our actions, and our conversations on campus about loving others. 1 Corinthians 13 has often been called the 'love chapter' of the Bible, oftentimes used in weddings to illustrate the sacrificial type of love that needs to be demonstrated by both spouses in order to love as Christ did.
This love ought to be even more than a sacrificial love between husband and wife; it ought to be a reminder to every person who seeks to live like Christ. As a team, we read and discussed the meaning of this chapter and ways that we can more effectively love others in a way that communicates Christ's love to whomever we come across.
Megan, Duncan and I stood around the table discussing concepts of great doctrinal import. The foot traffic had slowed down quite a bit, but the last class break of the afternoon finally let out; a girl stopped to read the banners and I asked her what she thought.
"Hi, hope you're enjoying the---" I was abruptly interrupted by her.
"---I don't like them." she said, with a slight shake of her head. Upon my further inquiry as to what she didn't like, she responded with much profanity. "I hate Christianity-and I hate what it means and what it stands for. I think it's full of lies and liars. It's just a bunch of myths and fables." She turned and abruptly walked away. I uttered a silent prayer that she would come to find God personally someday.
Five minutes later, I happened to glance over to the opposite side of the banners, and there was the girl who had cursed me out earlier, intently reading! Without fail, something draws many people back to read the banners more thoroughly or ask more questions. No matter how angry they are, I've seen countless times where they come back after reacting in profuse anger-just to listen quietly for hours. Something is drawing them back. If all this is truly just a lie,or a relative truth, then why not just walk away and ignore it? That is the question.
This love ought to be even more than a sacrificial love between husband and wife; it ought to be a reminder to every person who seeks to live like Christ. As a team, we read and discussed the meaning of this chapter and ways that we can more effectively love others in a way that communicates Christ's love to whomever we come across.
Megan, Duncan and I stood around the table discussing concepts of great doctrinal import. The foot traffic had slowed down quite a bit, but the last class break of the afternoon finally let out; a girl stopped to read the banners and I asked her what she thought.
"Hi, hope you're enjoying the---" I was abruptly interrupted by her.
"---I don't like them." she said, with a slight shake of her head. Upon my further inquiry as to what she didn't like, she responded with much profanity. "I hate Christianity-and I hate what it means and what it stands for. I think it's full of lies and liars. It's just a bunch of myths and fables." She turned and abruptly walked away. I uttered a silent prayer that she would come to find God personally someday.
Five minutes later, I happened to glance over to the opposite side of the banners, and there was the girl who had cursed me out earlier, intently reading! Without fail, something draws many people back to read the banners more thoroughly or ask more questions. No matter how angry they are, I've seen countless times where they come back after reacting in profuse anger-just to listen quietly for hours. Something is drawing them back. If all this is truly just a lie,or a relative truth, then why not just walk away and ignore it? That is the question.
Now, I have had people on campus respond to me in anger before. But, I'm human (surprise!) and I really didn't want to get yelled at again. So, I carefully avoided the path this girl took around the banners, and for the next five minutes she read. I found myself on the other side of the banners as more students stopped by to read, and I welcomed a few students to read, telling them to let me know if they had any questions. Looking up, I noticed the girl standing up on the sidewalk, still gazing with intrigue at the banners.
Suddenly, without warning, I found myself moving closer to her and my lips uttered, "Can I ask you a question?" "Sure," she said, her eyes carefully avoiding mine upon realizing who had spoken to her. "If you hate Christianity so much, what do you find so interesting about the banners?"
Suddenly, without warning, I found myself moving closer to her and my lips uttered, "Can I ask you a question?" "Sure," she said, her eyes carefully avoiding mine upon realizing who had spoken to her. "If you hate Christianity so much, what do you find so interesting about the banners?"
To be honest, I do not even remember what her response was. Perhaps she did not give one, but she did immediately jump to her belief that the Bible is inaccurate and full of myths and fables that mirror the religions of other cultures besides the Bible.
"For example, the Chinese culture has a story about Noah, same as the Bible does."
I was tempted to share the amazing fact that this discovery is itself evidence for the Bible, but I didn't. Instead, I just listened. Asked what religious back ground she had growing up in. She calls herself pagan now, explaining that it has a lot to do with earth worship, "Without getting into the whole peace symbols and flowers." I asked if she had ever thought about what if she is wrong in this belief. Her response is that she doesn't want to believe something just out of fear that she might be wrong.
Blakely claimed that what we had up on the banners about Creation was completely false because there is so much evidence for evolution. I quietly explained how evolutionists and creationists are looking at the same bit of scientific data, but through two different lenses. She didn't really have a response, so we moved on to another topic.
Throughout our discussion, Blakely's voice shook with nervousness-it didn't sound angry this time; I figured if it had been anger she would have thrown some more profanity into it, and she didn't. I have one theory about that. It might be right, and it might be wrong. But I think it was because she had no idea how to respond to me loving her. My conversation with her did not win her to Christ. She did not bend down and repent and ask Jesus into her heart. But God won from my conversation with her. Because I loved her. And I listened to her. I was able to explain points with a very laid-back attitude, never demanding anything or interrupting to tell her that she was wrong. And I think that was all I could do.
There is almost always a reason caused by pain in life that people choose to reject and deny God, and I still believe that. Blakely had a much less nervous, much quieter personality when we ended our conversation. A friend of hers came up and started talking to her, and I stood quietly by. When he apologized for interrupting us, she replied, "That's okay-we were just chit-chatting," and looked at me hesitatingly for a second. When he left, she was the one who continued the conversation.
One statement Blakely made was that she saw no evidence for God. To my question of what type of evidence would there be to convince her, the response was a typical one: if God came down and stood right in front of her and spoke to her, she would believe.
"For example, the Chinese culture has a story about Noah, same as the Bible does."
I was tempted to share the amazing fact that this discovery is itself evidence for the Bible, but I didn't. Instead, I just listened. Asked what religious back ground she had growing up in. She calls herself pagan now, explaining that it has a lot to do with earth worship, "Without getting into the whole peace symbols and flowers." I asked if she had ever thought about what if she is wrong in this belief. Her response is that she doesn't want to believe something just out of fear that she might be wrong.
Blakely claimed that what we had up on the banners about Creation was completely false because there is so much evidence for evolution. I quietly explained how evolutionists and creationists are looking at the same bit of scientific data, but through two different lenses. She didn't really have a response, so we moved on to another topic.
Throughout our discussion, Blakely's voice shook with nervousness-it didn't sound angry this time; I figured if it had been anger she would have thrown some more profanity into it, and she didn't. I have one theory about that. It might be right, and it might be wrong. But I think it was because she had no idea how to respond to me loving her. My conversation with her did not win her to Christ. She did not bend down and repent and ask Jesus into her heart. But God won from my conversation with her. Because I loved her. And I listened to her. I was able to explain points with a very laid-back attitude, never demanding anything or interrupting to tell her that she was wrong. And I think that was all I could do.
There is almost always a reason caused by pain in life that people choose to reject and deny God, and I still believe that. Blakely had a much less nervous, much quieter personality when we ended our conversation. A friend of hers came up and started talking to her, and I stood quietly by. When he apologized for interrupting us, she replied, "That's okay-we were just chit-chatting," and looked at me hesitatingly for a second. When he left, she was the one who continued the conversation.
One statement Blakely made was that she saw no evidence for God. To my question of what type of evidence would there be to convince her, the response was a typical one: if God came down and stood right in front of her and spoke to her, she would believe.
Now, I could have responded by telling her that Jesus had done that. Because He had. But she had already heard that. She had already heard that Jesus loved her. She had already been called a dirty rotten little sinner.
"I don't even care when people tell me I'm going to hell-I've had people tell me that," she admitted, flipping her hair out of her eyes that were keenly focused on the ground. I could have been mistaken, but I thought I saw her shoulders cower a little. Was she expecting me to give her yet another reminder that she was going to hell, I wonder?
Blakely just needed someone to love her. I could tell from her eyes that barely met mine for our whole conversation that she was starving for it. God moved me-physically and in my heart-to show her love by engaging in conversation. Oh Father, speak to Blakely's heart. I pray she finds you. This need for love is felt by so many people in the world today. A callous covers a tender part of the skin to protect it from pain when the skin is ripped off. The human heart, as well, quickly learns to develop rough spots and callouses when pain is experienced in life as a mechanism to escape the suffering on a daily basis. Sometimes, loving another person can be the first step to gently approaching a sensitive issue and allowing that person to open up, be vulnerable, and accept that love.
If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but do not have love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging symbol. If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and have a faith that can move mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. If I give all I possess to the poor and give over my body to hardship that I may boast, but do not have love, I gain nothing. 1 Cor. 13:1-3
If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but do not have love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging symbol. If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and have a faith that can move mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. If I give all I possess to the poor and give over my body to hardship that I may boast, but do not have love, I gain nothing. 1 Cor. 13:1-3